At the start of every relationship, I am sexually active, but then I retreat and start to find fault with my partner
I am a 41-year-old man and have issues with intimacy, which I am struggling to address. At the beginning of every relationship, I am sexually active, but when things become serious I start to back off and retreat into myself. I then find intimacy incredibly difficult – so much so that I don’t engage in sexual activity at all. Hugging and kissing is fine – I am not completely unfeeling – but I can’t bring myself to have sex.
The situation has been the same with all my partners; in the past, I have dealt with it by finding fault with my partner or the relationship, then ending things. I have had therapy for depression and events in my past, but I was never able to fix the intimacy problem. I have been in my current relationship for three years and we have not had sex for two of them. It is destroying a relationship that is perfectly fine in all other aspects.